I’m a Dominatrix not a fetish model

 I guess many can debate what is the difference between a professional dominatrix and a fetish model? 

 Can there only be one or can they be combined?  

 Personally I know a few good professional dominatrices that have been fetish models and fetish models that have turned into good professional dominatrices.  But I have to say the feedback that I receive from most of my clients that see the typical “fetish model/dominatrix“ ends up extremely disappointed with their session. 

 I find that I have different types of clients that contact Me, fortunately I’m pretty good with marketing I should be that’s My background; sales and marketing. So I tend to attract the right type of clientele.  For Me however there is the rare occasion where I may get a client that is purely a fetishist and has no interest in any sort of submission that’s wanting the more “fetish model type“. 

 This is where I like to remind people that I am a dominatrix not a fetish model.

 Now I have to admit I have done some Fetish modeling in the past.  But any woman just about can put on some make up do her hair and put on the right outfit that some people may stereotype as a dominatrix yet that doesn’t really make that woman a dominatrix.  

 Being a professional dominatrix takes so much more than a good pair of boots and a cat suit.  

 Domination although to most seems purely physical in actuality is 100% psychological. 

 Domination is not purely about pain. Domination is about control and if anybody reads most of the content that I write throughout different social networks that is the one thing that I consistently push; Reminding people that domination is not about physically harming someone, domination is about power exchange one person giving up control willingly and the other person willingly yet  strategically taking control. 

 Many clients are unhappy with seeing a fetish model because a fetish model may typically be accustomed to seeing clients that are happy with a woman who goes down the checklist that stays detached during her session.  Many fetish models also do not deeply study BDSM nor their clients. The clients that feel satisfied with fetish models tend to be predominately attracted to the Woman looking more like a model. Yet many who want to submit are learning that the “model type” can only take you so far. We don’t pick a doctor based off their looks. Why should you select a dominatrix based purely off their appearance?  Again don’t get Me wrong I can understand that a part of our job is the way we look and carry ourselves. Being attractive, feminine or some may prefer a more masculine look either way there is “a look” that people may find appealing. And I understand that for most clients being attracted to the person they are being Dominated by is an important factor. But men need to think before they just going out contacting a Dominatrix.  Some people think that because a Domme does films that she knows what she’s doing. (I am not saying that all film Dommes are bad, many are good). But people call this stuff BDSM “porn” and for Me hearing the words BDSM and “porn” together just does not resonate. Yes Domination is hot, it’s sexy, it’s arousing but when I think of porn I think of sex.  

So when it comes to Women who are doing films it is usually acting. It is someone going through the motions. It is disconnected. It’s just a scene. 

Now if you’re involved the Domme needs to know you, she needs to understand your body physically and your mind and psyche emotionally. Connecting in a session is important to Me whether I see someone once or multiple times. And personally it is making sure that I find that rare way to bond that makes Me a Dominatrix and not just a Fetish model. 

I am highly selective with whom I choose to see. I don’t just take someone’s money and go through the motions and disconnect. I make sure they are able to submit and let go and learn to trust Me during our time together (Thia is why I do not do 1 hour sessions). 

I appreciate each individual that I session with and everyone’s submission is different and unique and it is My job as a Dominatrix to be able to safely and consensually help my clients fullfill their BDSM and Fetish fantasies. It is a responsibility.  And anyone interested in becoming a professional dominatrix should educate them continuously throughout their career.  

And this is why I am a dominatrix first and always, not just a fetish model.

I really love what I do. 

On your Knees! 

Mistress Tiffany 

My New Dungeon La Bastille Dungeon.

It has taken a lot of work but I have finally got the bulk of My 1500 sqft Dungeon/Playspace done. 

I had My first private party over the weekend and I have to say I am in some pain, it was a lot of work not only getting My space done in time for the party, but also getting the rest of My place acceptable for guests; after all I just moved less than a month ago.  But I am excited that My friends and party guests enjoyed the space.  I received very positive feedback. 

Out of all the playspaces i have worked in and owned this is the largest I have had to work with and as a friend told Me "Uou will NEVER be done with this space because you will always be moving stuff around, adding things to it and changing it up." and I have to say My friend is right.  It is a space I can always add to and do things with, that is the amazing thing about it. 

Now that the bulk of it is done, I hope My clients know it is time to come and play. 

I'll write more about it, in the meantime enjoy the few photos I have added here; keep in mind the photos do not really give you an idea of the size, you'll just have to come see it. 

On your Knees!
Mistress Tiffany

P.S.  I included a photo of My outfit and blond wig from the Dungeon Opening Party. 
None of the photos are professional.  All are candid I will have a professional photographer come in to capture the space better.  It is really amazing. 

My Opening party attire.

 The second sitting area around the Bondage Frame.

 My very good friend made these for Me, I love them.  

 The photo below is before the walls were done in the main area. I still had a lot of work to do but got the sitting area in the main area done and it is now complete.  I will post more photos soon.

I am still working on the Boudiour area of the Dungeon but it is looking amazing.

This is where I am going to put My new latex vac bed.

Eros has changed their policies.

I can't lie and say I do not find it annoying that Eros has changed so many of their policies from photos to text in our ads and now we can no longer post our WEBSITES! 

We are only allowed to keep a phone number and email address. 
I personally find that doing this will make it difficult for both Pro-Dommes and clients to find quality. 

Most of My clients appreciate My detailed website and the information and reviews on My website. 
I also appreciate clients who take the time to read My website and email Me or fill out My questionnaire. 

Now we have Women who can just post ads with pictures and a number there is no website or effort put into their business and text is limited now on Eros.  FOSTA (google it if you do not know what it is). Is really messing up our rights, those of us clearly of age and independent should not have to deal with this.  And now clients can suffer by meeting Dommes that may not have the experience level that the client requires which can lead to a dangerous session for the client. 

I am putting a plan to step forward for Pro-Dommes separating professional Dominatrices from prostitution (We are completely separate and different). 

I have heard too many horror stories from clients who have had bad experiences with Dommes who clearly do NOT know what they are doing and I plan on doing what I can to help clients find quality Pro-Dommes. 

I know there are still Pro-Dome directories out there and I suggest that clients stick to those because our websites are there.  This is My best suggestion for now. 

Share your feedback with Me. 

On your Knees!
Mistress Tiffany