Jaded or is it Post-coital tristesse?

I wanted to share this posting I made on My Fet life account here on My blog. _________________________________________
This is why some Dommes are so jaded by men.

When a man’s dick gets hard, when he becomes aroused he will say and do almost anything to get what he wants. What does he want? At the end of the day he wants to discuss his fantasies, get his dick hard, get himself off and wants he comes reality sets in. It is like a drug junkie or alcoholic who wakes up from a night of heavy drug use or drinking and saying “oh no, what did I do”.

It Is frustrating to a Woman who does think logically (we don’t have dicks) to have men make empty promises because that’s what their fantasies or their dicks are telling them to say.

Domination can be very fulfilling, satisfying and yet scary for some people. Fulfilling our deep dark fantasies can be scary; sometimes for a submissive the idea of the fantasy is just enough to fulfill their appetite, and with that fantasy a submissive will say almost anything to just keep their dick throbbing until they pop their rocks off, then that when it happens. The blood rushes back to the top part of your body where your brain is and if you want to get more clinical a chemical such as dopamine and other chemicals are released and now you come back to reality the release has happened and the fantasy was fulfilled after the release whether or not you followed through the submissive got their nut and the fantasy is over. Some may even start to feel guilt or shame, just like a drug junkie or alcoholic after a night of binging.

I consider this behavior to be very dangerous and un-healthy not only to the submissive but to anyone else he may bring into his fantasy to fulfill his junkie needs. I have done some research and some people may call this Post-coital tristesse (usually referred to after sex, but can happen after masturbation or after a Domination Session). It is usually related to feelings of guilt, apathy, disconnection, sadness, etc. after coming (an orgasm). This can occur in both men and Women but is more common in men.

This is something that Femme Dommes find frustrating and I feel there are more men that are into kink that behave this way (not all) and I do My best to help submissives get through this, I enjoy helping others fulfill their fantasies with-out feeling guilty, I want My submissves both personal and clients to have a feeling of fulfillment, love, joy and overall happiness when seeing Me during our time and after. Whether it is naughty dirty hardcore play or sensual it should always be fulfilling and satisfying to both the Dominant and the submissive.

I feel if someone is suffering from Post-coital tristesse that they should feel free to find a Therapist to help them through this, I know many men are afraid of discussing certain fantasies with certain Therapist in fear that they will be judged, but what people need to realize is they are trained for this, I find male Therapist to be much more open minded as well. Professional Dominatrix like Myself can assist as well as long as we know what it is you are seeking.

Either way you need to be respectful, realistic and understanding when it comes to finding a Domme or when you are with a Domme, if you have a fear or concern be open and express it when looking for a Domme, but NEVER be misleading by stating you want the type of relationship she is seeking to get what you want. Do not let your dick get you in trouble and do not let your fantasies take control of who you are, it is not as hard as you think it is to find the type of D/s relationship you desire or Domme.

I find comfort is this definition of My own of a submissive.
Submissive – One who receives pleasure from pleasing another.
I hope to help those who seek fantasy fulfillment with-out guilt or shame, well unless it is consensual guilt or shame that is a part of our scene of course.

your Superior,
Mistress Tiffany